Oct 10, 2017

Making Peace with the Vocations We Don't Have (From our Archives)

Note: This piece first ran in 2016.

By Anna Ilona Mussmann

Barbara Cooney’s classic picture book, Miss Rumphius, tells the story of a lady who fulfills all three of her childhood goals.
“In the evening Alice sat on her grandfather’s knee and listened to his stories of faraway places. When he had finished, Alice would say, ‘When I grow up, I too will go to faraway places, and when I grow old, I too will live beside the sea.’ 
“‘That is all very well, little Alice,’ said her grandfather, ‘but there is a third thing you must do.’  
“‘What is that?’ asked Alice.  
“‘You must do something to make the world more beautiful,’ said her grandfather. 'All right.’ said Alice. But she did not know what that could be.’”

The story is beautifully told and beautifully illustrated. Yet the protagonist doesn’t do anything impressive. She does her homework until, one day, she is grown up. She never marries or has children, and we are not told whether this is something she chooses or laments. She goes to work--presumably for most of her life--until she can travel the world. Even her beautifying act is nothing more than scattering lupine seeds across her island.

Why, then, does the story have such lasting resonance?

Perhaps it is because its simplicity conveys a feeling of rightness. Alice does what is before her. In contrast, today’s children tend to be hounded by the notion that they must find their passion, follow their heart, achieve their dreams--do, be, and feel special, sparkly, valuable, and happy. This is tough on kids who don’t have a clear “passion” to chase. It’s rough on those whose hopes elude them.  

In Lutheran circles, we point to the doctrine of vocation as a counter-balance to the pressure to focus on ourselves. Even so, it can be easy to wonder if our vocations are enough. Stay-at-home moms worry that they ought to accomplish more outside the home. Single women fear that without husbands and children, they are cut off from life’s deepest and most meaningful work.

We need to become more comfortable with the idea that life is about receiving different gifts, different paths, and different opportunities. Despite our lip service to diversity, our culture resists accepting the real differences between individuals, cultures, and even human bodies. We tell each child, “You can be anything you want to be!,” yet we know it’s a lie. Harsh as it sounds, not all boys will ever be fast enough to make the basketball team. Not all girls will ever be considered pretty by strangers. Not all children will have the academic ability to earn a degree in engineering or the social smarts to have a wide circle of friends. Not all adults are given the same vocations. That is okay. Furthermore, it is under the control of a loving, omnipotent God. That means that it is--or can be made--good.

In an article about how she and her husband came to adopt their foster daughter, Natalie Patterson talks about the misery of knowing that she wasn’t doing a good enough job at loving a traumatized child. She did not feel the same emotional bond with this angry little girl as she did with her biological children, and she struggled every day. She was sure that someone else was better equipped to be a forever-mother. Yet eventually, the author and her husband decided that their job was not to do things perfectly, but to do the thing they had been given. She slowly learned that,

“I was not loved for my ability to be inspirational or always have a cheerful disposition or mark everything off of my to do list with perfection. 
“While I was learning how to love her well, I was learning to allow myself to be loved well. As I grew a mother’s love for this child, I grew in my understanding of the love my Father has for me.”

That, I think, is one of the most beautiful things about vocation. God uses it not just to serve our neighbors, but to teach us to understand His love a little better. It is fascinating to note the percentage of famous Biblical figures who are known for vocations that they fit poorly (Jonah is hardly the model of what a missionary should be) or were forced into (Queen Esther was conscripted into marriage, and Naaman’s Jewish slave girl surely longed for a different life). Yet we remember these people and the work God did through them.

Our vocations are defined by the responsibilities that God has given us. We forget this lesson not only when we call for sparkly passions, but also when we look for feelings of success as reassurance that we are on the right path. Doing so may be very American and very modern, but it is hardly Biblical.

Miss Rumphius was not a sparkly unicorn snowflake who became the first female president, converted dozens of unbelievers to the faith, or even reared a picture-perfect Christian family full of children who loved to recite Bible verses while dressed in pastel-colored outfits. Instead, people called her a crazy old lady. Yet her story is beautifully right. Thanks to the Divine love that transcends what we do, our stories are beautifully right, too.


After graduating from Concordia Wisconsin, Anna taught in Lutheran schools for several years and became so enthusiastic about Classical Education that she will talk about it to whomever will listen. She is a big fan of Jane Austen, dark chocolate, and the Oxford comma. Anna and her husband live in Pennsylvania with their two small children. Anna's work can also be found in The Federalist.

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