tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9196316261585940971.post7435812330979350366..comments2023-07-06T06:04:07.849-07:00Comments on Sister, Daughter, Mother, Wife: Building a Culture of Friendship in Your FamilyAnna Mussmannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11631139113615066986noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9196316261585940971.post-6999441848456455742014-08-14T22:00:13.589-07:002014-08-14T22:00:13.589-07:00"When parents tell young, untrained children ..."When parents tell young, untrained children to solve their problems themselves, the result is often that the kids don’t actually solve anything—instead, they merely engage in a contest of wills to see who is willing to hold out longer. This gives the advantage to the stubborn child who would rather be torn into pieces by wild wolves than give in."<br />I'm a middle child at 20 with an older sister and a younger brother, and I can tell you those contests of the will are just brutal. Conflict resolution is basically impossible like that without intervention. Even if you're probably right, isn't it better to suffer injustice than take a brother to court over trivial matters? That's a huge thing to learn. Of course I still struggle with this.Jonathannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9196316261585940971.post-31386795894087858372014-08-11T06:27:56.432-07:002014-08-11T06:27:56.432-07:00"When my girls fought, I would tell them, “Yo..."When my girls fought, I would tell them, “Your sister is a very special person, because you will have her forever. It is important for you to be kind and take care of each other.” "<br />This is exactly what I did with my two girls - now twenty-somethings and are best friends.<br /><br />Thank you for this excellent article. It should be required reading for all parents. :)SusanHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03125463308628020715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9196316261585940971.post-88163361795196925712014-08-05T11:24:59.614-07:002014-08-05T11:24:59.614-07:00I really need to work on paying more attention to ...I really need to work on paying more attention to what my 3 are doing when I'm in another room. Too often I think, "They're playing nicely, I can sit and rest for a minute, read a blog post or my email." And that's exactly when problems erupt. Thanks for the encouragement/reminder that paying attention is more important than a long mental break!Hamlette (Rachel)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11961916847426233995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9196316261585940971.post-70746826212892891282014-08-03T17:39:10.429-07:002014-08-03T17:39:10.429-07:00Thank you, so very much. Thank you for the concret...Thank you, so very much. Thank you for the concrete examples. I need more advice like this. Jodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124853867811087834noreply@blogger.com